Murphy's Law...

This is in response to this blog post:http://wifebehindthefire.com/murphy-bastard/

Murphy enjoys breaking cars and me while L is on shift! Two summers ago, my brakes locked up, and I hit stopped traffic. I totaled my car, in the county he works in (the county we live in is bordered by it).

He was coming off shift, but I couldn't reach him. He'd already left, and was on his motorcycle. I called the station, just in case he was still there. His Lt answered, and promptly sent half the county county it seemed like! I refused to let anyone look at me (no serious injuries, lots of airbag and upholstery burns) until L got there.

Fast forward about 18 months, and I'm sitting on the interstate, in stopped traffic, and some fool is gawking off too the side of the road, and hits a car, which hits me, and I tap into the person in front of me who was also stopped. That was the beginning of November, and he was coming off shift, over an hour away. It took until the end if February to get my car in to be fixed, and then 2 (!) months to get it back.

During those two months, I got hit in the rental car! My sedan got hit by a giant Yukon driven by a little old lady, who said she couldn't see me. L was headed on shift at the PT job, but I was in the county bordering that county, so he got the guy coming off shift to cover so he could check on me.

All of my ER visits since meeting him over 5 years ago have been while he's on shift - 'nuff said!

Sunday #1 During Lent

So apparently, Sunday doesn't count during the weeks of Lent. There is back story there, but simply put, it doesn't count. So today's post will be about the things I do to strengthen my marriage, which by default strengthens me as well.

I love my in-state in-laws. I go to family functions with them, without the FF. They aren't blood, but they are family. I'm comfortable there, they love my son and me, and getting along with the people important to my husband, is important.

I try to do stuff for my FF. This morning I made sure he had breakfast, even though he said he wasn't really hungry. (He ate every bite of it, too!) I do small stuff like making sure he has a uniform ready before his shifts, and I set his alarm. If I see that his shaver isn't plugged in, I plug it in, so it's ready for him.

Communication is a huge thing for us. In the last few years I've grown a lot, and he has too, and keeping open communication has definitely strengthened us. I tell him when I'm mad with him, I tell him when he hurts my feelings, and I try to always tell him when I appreciate something he has done. I strive to balance the negatives with positives as much as possible.

Lent Day 3

I'm thoughtful towards my husband. I know that sounds like a no-brainer, but I also know that in past relationships, I haven't always been thoughtful towards my partners. This morning I got the wood stove going, because I knew when he came home he would be downstairs working on a project, and he despises the cold. I try to do small things for him, like making sure he has a drink, offering to get him things he needs, etc. Of course it is certainly a two-way street, but these Lent postings are affirmations about myself, not him ;-)